Meet Jeana Abarca — Intuitive Healer and Guide
I help people dig into the pain they’ve been carrying—grief, trauma, shame, stuck patterns—and finally start clearing what’s been running the show. I’m not here to fix you. I’m here to help you stop believing you’re broken. This work is raw, real, and transformational. If you’re ready to stop surviving and start actually living, you’re in the right place.
From Pain to Healing — My Journey Into Intuitive Work
- I remember what it’s like to be in pain.
- I remember taking my problems to traditional therapy.
- I remember it never working.
I wanted to blame everyone in my life for things not turning out how I thought they should. If only my then-husband would just stop drinking, maybe I could stop numbing myself—hiding from my life with Xanax, working out, or shopping.
It wasn’t until I found energy work while in massage school that things actually started to shift. I finally began to see my pain for what it was: a tool to help me heal. And the results were so powerful, I knew I had to share what was working for me with others.
Starting back in 2006, I took courses in Reiki and Craniosacral Therapy, but that only scratched the surface. Eventually, I found Rita Henry and Jonathan Parker—teachers who took The Work to a whole new level. I still work with them today.
Through my own pain, my life, and the school of my youngest daughter (who’s been my master teacher in more ways than I can count), I’ve worked on:
- Forgiving myself for the choices I made in my past when I didn’t know better (like marrying someone just as emotionally unavailable as what I grew up witnessing)
- Letting go of being the victim in my own life—and blaming everyone else for how miserable I felt
- Releasing the illusion that being a mom means my daughter and I should be best friends (and no longer needing my kids to be my source of happiness)
- Giving up the belief that I could control people by bullying them into doing what I wanted
I’ve been my own best guinea pig—and because of that, I know how powerful this work is. I also know how important it is to have someone on your side who won’t get triggered by their own stuff when you bring up yours.
So yeah—you can bring me your grief from losing someone, your belief that you’re a worthless piece of shit for not losing the weight, or the trauma from your dad forgetting to pick you up after school. I can hold that. I do hold that. Safely, completely, and without judgment.
If you want to heal your pain, you have to see your life in truth. No matter how pretty you make the pretend, it’s still pretend—and it’s keeping you stuck.
- I can help you see the truth.
- I can help you heal.
“I wish everyone would do at least 3 sessions with you. The world would be a better place.”
– Missy Allen
You Can’t Heal If You’re Lying to Yourself
I lived my life through the lens of insecurity. Feeling like I wasn’t enough. I was afraid. I believed my life couldn’t look any other way.
So I muted myself.
- Made myself small.
- Edited myself.
- I was edgy.
Really, I couldn’t see any other possibility.
Step by step, I started doing my work.
I started getting curious about my stories—stories about being the victim, feeling not enough, and always wrong. I was in pain. And I believed my pain was the result of things other people had done or said. I believed it was completely out of my control.
From that place of pain, I:
- Blamed others
- Tried to control my alcoholic husband
- Manipulated people
- Wasn’t honest
- Bullied people into doing what I wanted
- Told myself it was their fault I was where I was
- Played the victim
I thought that by playing small, I would get what I wanted.
I thought I wanted things—relationships, other people to love me—but over the decades I learned:
You can’t get enough of what you don’t need.
And when I did have what I wanted, I didn’t believe I deserved it anyway. I thought playing small meant I could blame others when my life didn’t turn out how I wanted it to. The victim role was comfortable.
I never knew how to take personal responsibility for my life. I believed that if I just pretended things were how I thought they should be, they’d get better.
They didn’t.
When You Stop Choosing From Fear, You Start Living in Truth
I wasn’t even aware that I was living my life through fear.
The choices I made weren’t from clarity or desire. They were from fear—not this is what I want, but this is what I’m afraid will happen if I don’t.
But now I know that’s bullshit.
I’ve learned that:
- Making choices from fear didn’t get me what I wanted
- Making choices from fear gave me more of what I didn’t want
And if you’re ready to stop lying to yourself—if you’re ready to face the truth, to see your own magnificence, to rewrite the bullshit stories you don’t even realize you believe—you’re going to need someone to guide you.
Because sometimes the fear feels so real, you live like the emotional police are circling the block with sirens going:
Weeee.Woooo.
Coming to get you for even thinking about stepping out of line.
But here’s the truth: they’re not.
And even when you know something isn’t real, it can feel so real you don’t believe you can break free—until someone shows up to love you through it.
- You don’t have to keep holding onto the lies.
- The fear isn’t keeping you safe.
- I’m here to love on you—even when you can’t love on yourself.
- I’m here to help you see what’s real and what isn’t.
(Like the truth that no matter how much personal responsibility you’re taking—you still get to take a nap.)
You’re the One Who Can Change Everything—But You Don’t Have to Do It Alone
I’m here to help you rewrite the story that’s kept you playing small—
the one that says this is the only way to have a life you love,
even after decades of playing that shit out again and again.
But here’s the truth:
- No one can do this but you.
- No one can move you to the next level but you.
- It’s going to ask you to face something you’ve never faced before.
And still—you don’t have to do any of it alone.
The Intuitive Tools and Skills I Bring to Every Session
Think of me like Nancy Drew meets a meticulous cleaning lady.
I’ve got an innate curiosity and the instinct to ask the exact questions that get you results.
- I use my well-developed intuition to recognize what’s coming up—and whether or not it needs to be cleared
- I’m an empath. I feel what you feel (physically, mentally, and emotionally) so we can move through what’s surfacing quicker, sooner, faster
- I often know what we’re going to work on before you even pick up the phone
- I bring a sense of spaciousness and expansion to what’s keeping you stuck—so you get the distance you need to finally release it
- I help replace and upgrade the outdated patterns and programs you’ve been running, so you’re no longer stuck operating on a system from the ’80s when the modern version of you is right here, ready to go